Relationships

A cancer diagnosis impacts those close to you and those you spend the most time with. Those that love you are on your cancer journey too, especially if you have one main support person or caregiver. At times, they may be called on to assist with or make decisions about your care. They may be providing physical, emotional, and spiritual care for you. Family members, loved ones, and caregivers need to process their feelings which may range from grief, to anger, fear, denial, depression, and anxiety. If there are children in the household, the diagnosis can impact their own growth and development needs. Family members and loved ones with previous anxiety, depression, PTSD, or other emotional trauma may need professional counseling or medical help to support their resilience and mental wellbeing.

Open dialogue and sharing feelings can enhance awareness and understanding between you and your loved ones. Conversations can be challenging but fortunately, many cancer centers offer professional support, including social workers or psychologists that can help everyone involved. Patient, family, or caregiver support groups may also be available.

Have compassion for family members and/or caregivers as they may be struggling with burnout, feelings of isolation, or feeling like you are a burden. Many caregivers and loved ones want to help, but don't know how. Clear communication can help in meaningful and specific ways. This is not always an intuitive process, and learning to ask for help honestly, but also setting boundaries around personal time in a loving way is important. Cancer is a vulnerable time for everyone involved and can bring out the best and the worst in us. This is normal. Be patient with yourself and your loved ones as these emotions are experienced or processed. For many couples or families, these vulnerable times are opportunities for growth, deepening relationships and loving feelings despite the inherent challenges. Trust in good intentions and be gentle with yourself and each other during these challenging times.

Try This

Open up to family members and discuss perceived stress or emotional needs.
Have a non-judgmental family gathering on a weekly or bi-weekly basis to increase understanding, communication, and gratitude.
Enhance your relationships with gratitude rituals or fun activities to relieve stress.
Reach out for peer-to-peer support because sometimes it helps to get input and encouragement from others going through what you are.
Look for ways to have fun, and remember that you are more than your cancer diagnosis